I decided to be systematic this year and compile a list of conferences that interested me ahead of time, so I could better know what I was missing, where I might speak, and most importantly, how  might plan my time so I could go to the conferences that would be the most enjoyable for me (sharing knowledge, learning things, talking with people, cool travel).

Here's that list.  It's heavy on feminist and media conferences, along with the more usual Web 2.0, tech. social media and venture/start-up events. I've excluded most very local events, smaller meet-ups and so on, just to try to keep it manageable (it's not).

The key: bold means I am going; bold ital, I am speaking.

Okay, here goes:

January

•  3 EqualityCamp, San Francisco, Ca, equalitycamp.org
• 4-9, MacWorld, San Francisco, CA, www.macworldexpo.com
• 9-10, Chicks Who Click, Boulder, CO
• 30-31, She's Geeky, Mountain View, CA, shesgeeky.org/
• 31, 2009 Teens in Tech, San Francisco,CA, upcoming.yahoo.com/event/1339851/

February

• 2, Fem2pt0, George Washington University, DC, www.fem2pt0.com/
• 2-4, Always On, ON Media: NYC, alwayson.goingon.com/ecom/productview/20968
• 3-7, TED, Monterey, California, conferences.ted.com/TED2009/
• 4-6, MONEY:Tech, OReilly, NYC en.oreilly.com/money2009/public/content/home
• 2-7, Web Directions North, Denver, COl,http://north.webdirections.org/
• 5-8, Interaction 09, Vancouver, interaction09.ixda.org/
• 7,  Women's Leadership Forum 2009: Empowering for Success, Sunnyvale,Ca, opensiliconvalley.org/
• 7, BIL Conference, Long B
• 11-13, O'Reilly Tools of Change for Publishing ,New York, NY, www.toccon.com
• 16-17, Miami, Media Learning Seminar: Information Needs of Communities in a Democracy, co-sponsored by the Council on Foundations and the John S. and James L. Knight Foundation
• 17-21, Public Media Conference 2009, Atlanta, GA, www.integratedmedia.org/home.cfm
• 17-18, Web content, Tampa, Fl, www.webcontentconferences.com/tampabay/
• 19-21, Northern Voice, UBC, 5883 University Blvd., Vancouver, British Columbia www.northernvoice.ca
• 22: BarCamp Miami, Miami, FL
• 22-24, Future of Web Apps, Miami, FL, events.carsonified.com/fowa/2009/miami
• 24-26, We Media Miami, Miami, FL wemedia.com/miami/ (hope to speak)

March

• 2, Social Enterprise conference, Cambridge, MA,
• www.socialenterpriseclub.com/conference/
• 1-2, DEMO, Palm Desert, CA, demo.com
• 3-6, 2008: Etech 2009: San Jose, CA, en.oreilly.com/et2009/public/content/home
• 4-7, Drupalcon, Washington, DC drupal.org/node/321768
• 9-11, Media Exchange/NAA, Las Vegas, NV, marketingconference.naa.org/
• 13-22, SXSW, Austin, TX, sxsw.com/interactive
• 18-19, 2009 Media Summit, New York, NY, www.digitalhollywood.com/MediaSummit.html
• 20- 22, IA Summit, Memphis, TN, www.iasummit.org/
• 23-24, OMMA San Francisco, CA, www.mediapost.com/events/omma/
• 20-22,, Nieman  conference in narrative journalism, Cambridge, MA, www.nieman.harvard.edu/Microsites/2009NiemanConferenceOnNarrativeJournalismTellingTrueStoriesInTurbulentTimes/Home.aspx
• 27-29,, WAM! Women, Action & the Media, Boston, MA, www.centerfornewwords.org/wam/
• 31-April1, Web 2.0 Expo, San Francisco,www.web2expo.com

April

• 16-19, The Next Web, Amsterdam, NL, 2009.thenextweb.com/
• 21-22, eMarketing Association conference, San Francisco, CA, www.emarketingassociation.com/2009/SF/index.htm
• 27-29,  Milliken Institute Global Conference, LA, www.milkeninstitute.org/events/events.taf
• 28-29, New Marketing Summit, San Francisco, CA, www.gonewmarketing.com/nms_about.aspx
• 30, Anita Borg Institute, 2009 Women of Vision Awards, San Jose, CA,\ www.anitaborg.org/initiatives/women-of-vision/

May
6, 20th Anniversary Conference of the Professional Business Women of California, San Francisco, CA, www.pbwc.org/conferences/sanfrancisco-09
12-13, Streaming Media East, NY, NY, www.streamingmedia.com/east/
19-21, Where 2.0, San Jose, California en.oreilly.com/where2009/
26-27, NetSquared, San Jose, CA, www.netsquared.org/
26-29, D Squared, Carlsbad, CA, allthingsd.com/d/register/
30, Maker Faire, San Mateo, CA, www.makerfaire.com/
June

• 1-2, YPulse Youth Marketing Mashup, mashup.ypulse.com/
• 9-11 , Supernova, San Francisco, CA, www.supernova2008.com/
• 25-27, NAWBO Women's Business Conference, Chicago, Illinois, nawbo.org/section_110.cfm
• Late June, Personal Democracy Forum, NY, NY, www.personaldemocracy.com
  

July
20-24, OSCON, San Jose, CA, en.oreilly.com/oscon2009
24-25, BlogHer, July 2009, http://blogher09.eventbrite.com/
28-30, Always On, Stanford, CA, alwayson.goingon.com/ecom/productview/24424

August
21-22, Gnomedex, Seattle, WA
friendfeed.com/e/109ea38a-646a-f16b-88a8-e223425933cd/Choosing-the-date-for-Gnomedex-2009-looks-like

September
30 - October 3, 2009, Grace Hopper conference, Tuscon, AZ, www.gracehopper.org/2009/

October
1-3, ONA/Online News Association,, San Francisco, CA
journalists.org/events/event_details.asp?id=28693
 15-17, Blogword/New Media Expo, Las Vegas, NV, www.blogworldexpo.com/
20-22, Web 2.0 Summit, San Francisco, CA, en.oreilly.com/web2009/public/sv/q/102
21-23, Pop Tech, Camden ME,, www.poptech.org/overview2009/
2009, IDEA 2009, Chicago, IL, ideaconference.org/

November
Kelsey Group, Interactive Local Media, Bay area, CA, www.kelseygroup.com/ILM2009

Another good conference list for 2009 has been assembled by my friend JD Lasica;
other sources to check are Upcoming.org (particular the Web Conference Junkies' group),
Confabb, which has 81,000 conferences in every possible discipline and industry and Gary's Guide, which is a multi-city tech meetings list.

Feel free to add conferences to note in the comments.