New column up at Blogher on From casual to committed, trying it all again:

"Okay, so there was a period of time—maybe a few years—where I was convinced I'd never meet someone I'd want to spend a large chunk of my life with. In love or not, paired or single, the possibility of connecting with someone I'd both want to live with and plan a future with seemed just really, uh, remote. After all, hadn't I already been married for 10,000 years and been through all the bonding and the compromises? Why on earth would I ever want to go through the trouble of trying to do that again?"

More here.