My latest column at Blogher is live, and it's called Living Past Pain; what I learned from Reading Stephanie Quilao; she has great words about working your way out of emotional trauma.

One quote from her:
"You can try to bury an emotionally painful event like this, but it will never stay buried. It will fight its way to come to the surface, and if you choose not to deal with it, the pain can only be silenced with vices like drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, porn, gambling, eating disorders, cutting yourself, shopping beyond your debt, working 80 hours a week, or any other vice you can get our hands on to feel anything but the pain. Every day, you become more and more detached from your body."